During the holidays, it’s easy to find yourself comparing your experience to others. Every card with photos of family and friends remind you of what you desperately want and don’t have. Your family asks you if you’ve met anyone you like. And instead of feeling loving, it feels painful. You might even experience jealousy and sadness instead of the joy of the season when you see a happy couple.

Unfortunately, this doesn’t serve you in Meeting and Receiving the Perfect Partner for You.
Here are some tips to help you handle the holidays:

1) Meditate and spend time getting in alignment with your source energy in the morning before doing anything else.
Try Imagining your heart pouring love into your entire body, and filling every cell.
And then overflowing out to the room you are in, filling every nook and cranny. So that you are floating in a sea of love.
And then spilling out into the entire building you are in, touching the heart of every being. The plants, the animals, the people.
Feel yourself beam love and light out from your eyes and your smile.
And then let the love pour out of the building and into the neighborhood touching everything around you.
As you are doing this, feel your self beam even more brightly.
Then notice that this love energy is encircling the world and nourishing the soil, the water and the air you are breathing.
Now get up and go about your day.

2) Every time you see “something” that reminds you of what you want and conjures up some feelings of longing, PAUSE and turn your focus to filling yourself up with love and sending love from your heart, your eyes and your smile to that “something.” This will fill you up and make you a magnet for that which you are wanting. Imagine yourself experiencing the things you are wanting. For instance, if you see a scene of a family that you like, try it on and imagine having that experience. If you see a sweet couple kissing and laughing, imagine yourself with a sweetheart kissing and laughing. The key here is to imagine yourself from inside your body- seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling and tasting the experience, instead of just watching yourself. This increases the magnetic pull of your desire.

3) Spend time each day nurturing and loving yourself. Take a bath, get a massage or a pedicure, call your friends. Reach out to people who love you. Savor some music that makes you feel joyful. Think of the holidays as time to fill your self-love tanks. The object of your desire won’t see you as lovable if you don’t love yourself.

By Kimi Avary

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